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The goal of life is living in agreement with nature—Zeno

roadWhen you imagine your goal, believe that it’s already taking the path toward realization. In fact, it’s pretty much a done deal by the time you release the thought. Your job is to believe.

We don’t know why things work this way but, for the moment, let’s accept that they do.  We see it in our mind first and then after an hour or a week or longer, poof, the goal arrives in the physical world. The time frame may differ with each goal, but that’s okay—it’s your time frame. You’re in charge. Take steps confidently toward the goal, trusting that the time frame is perfect for you. Our job is to help its completion by putting in the necessary effort and by watching and listening for guiding sign posts that come to us as hunches or inspiration. We don’t need to worry about how all these wonders will occur.

Obviously, if your goal is to receive a diploma after taking a computer programming course, you need to show up and take the classes. No school will give you a diploma for simply willing it to happen. Your goal’s story needs action to propel it to the end: learn the lessons, do the homework, take the tests, and earn your diploma.

Some goals, however, take less effort than others. I was having trouble finding a cracker that was low in sodium, but even the ones with 30% or 40% less salt were still too salty for my taste. I didn’t do much about it, but I had been mentioning it to my friends, and had scanned the cracker counters for a suitable product, but never found anything I liked. A couple days later I was at a friend’s place for dinner, and her daughter brought out some pieces of long, flat cracker that were stale. I ate them quietly, but my friend noticed the ‘crackers’ were old. She apologized and said she would buy me some fresh ones, so I could taste what they’re really like. I told her that wasn’t necessary, but she was already half-way to the store.

I’m so glad she brought me a box of these flat ‘crackers’ because they had no salt at all! I tasted them and liked them. Finally, a sodium free cracker. I looked at the box and they were Matzo crackers. I had been at her house during the Jewish holiday of Passover, and the Matzo or flat, unleavened bread is its symbol. (There are no coincidences!)

In a hundred years, I would never have been able to map out the exact journey from my desiring a less salty cracker to participating in the ritual of Seder to my friend bringing me the cracker of my dreams. My cruder and less imaginative method was to plod through the grocery stores and complain to my friends. Neither of these tactics was wrong; at least I was taking steps toward my goal; they were just less inspired than the magic the Universe can perform on our behalf. We only need to picture the manifested goal and then move toward it by believing it’s on its way. The steps we take will come from hunches and inspiration. We don’t need to plan out how it’s going to arrive.

 If we persist in attempting the magic ourselves, we actually impede the flow of the Universe and its miraculous ways.

Next time, I’ll just imagine the perfect crackers and then let the image go. The Universe is way better than I at mapping out the crackers’ pathway to my house.

How do our goals arrive completed? They come via our belief that they’re already here. Shalom. bird

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Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible—Tony Robbins

When we set goals for ourselves and meet them, we change everything. We begin to see how our desires can be realized; we feel good about ourselves, and we watch our lives improve. Each day, decide what you want to accomplish.

NOTEPADWhen you wake up, make a list, either in your head or, even better write it down so you can look at it. Study the list for a few minutes and then go about your day. Most of us can accomplish these daily tasks, and we feel good after we’ve accomplished them.

Start now. Put a goal on your list that says something like, ‘Today I pamper myself with my favorite treat.’ You can replace ‘favorite treat’ with the actual treat. I would put on my list, ‘Today I am going to ignore all the caloric nonsense attached to a bowl of ice cream, and I’m going to eat a bowl of chocolaty ice cream.’ I feel good just thinking about it.

The next suggestion is really important: when you have your treat in front of you, enjoy every bit of it and never, not for one second, feel guilty. If you entertain even one atom of guilt, the whole thing loses its magic. This is our treat; we have a right to it; we earned it. This suggestion comes with a famous caveat: Everything in moderation; nothing in excess.

biscuits(While I was working on this post, I had begun imagining eating chocolate treats. My friend popped in and brought over a package of 10 chocolate biscuits—There are no coincidences—I felt no guilt. I knew about moderation, so I ate 5.)

After you’ve enjoyed your treat, retrace your steps.

  1. I must think of a treat;
  2. I desire that treat;
  3. I am now taking steps to acquire that treat;
  4. I am grateful, in advance, to the Universe for placing this treat in front of me;
  5. I am now seeing the treat in front of me;
  6. I am enjoying the treat.

Our mind is a wonderful servant waiting to work for us. What do we most desire in our life? Let’s write it down. Imagine it. Be specific. Picture it as complete. We thank the Universe in advance for fulfilling our desire because we believe it’s possible and it’s on its way. Why wouldn’t it be? The Universe wants what’s best for us, and will deliver it at the most perfect moment in our life. We give thanks for our realized desire arriving on time in the best possible manner.

Whatever our mind is trained to anticipate in the real world, it will bring into being.

The action of making a list for your favorite treat is no different from the action of desiring a state of mind for a day, or a wealth of abundance for a lifetime. We can desire a better job, or a healthy body, or a new friend. The Universe perceives these desires as exactly the same.

We think one desire might be more difficult than another, but just because we think that way doesn’t make it true. In truth, desires don’t come with built-in scales of difficulty. We build those fake levels in our doubts, which is why we set up barriers to their creation, either through our guilt or our disbelief. Some goals may take a little longer to create, but so what? We can wait. Patience is good for us. It’s all the sweeter when it arrives, and we learn to appreciate our riches.

We need to have faith in ourselves. We send out the command; we’re grateful in advance; the Universe manifests our desires; we enjoy every spoonful. Plain and simple. Good on us.